Before you make any snap judgments on which one of those options is better, you have to consider context. As a matter of fact, I could argue that both can be detrimental….
I was on my way to my car tonight in the corporate parking garage and happened upon this motorcycle parked in the handicap stall. Upon closer inspection, I realized that it was quite a phenomenal piece of machinery. What looks like a standard sidecar is actually a housing for a wheelchair and all of the standard controls are wired to be operated from that sidecar. There’s a steering wheel complete with a linkage to the handle bars, a hydraulic shifting mechanism and a throttle control all very integrated into the bike.
Clearly, this guy had every option to back out and say NO but made a decision chase his dream of riding a motorcycle, clearing some significant hurdles along the way. I thought about it on my ride home, and in that quick evaluation, I find that I fall into the NO trap quite often. Whether it’s a challenging problem at work, coffee with a friend that is maybe a little inconvenient to my schedule or even getting this blog off of the ground….It’s easy to find excuses to NOT do something.
Conversely, I also find myself falling into the YES mode….making something happen at all expenses, ignoring the impacts to my career, personal relationships and well being. Making a decision in a vacuum, over-committing to low priority projects or just arguing with my wife when I know damn well that I’m wrong.
So what’s the right approach? Is there some sort of filter you can apply to this?
I haven’t fully thought that through yet, but I would say YES or NO you better be convicted (You know it in your gut, You have data that can vindicate you, You’re willing to sacrifice in exchange for your passion, etc….). Whether or not he knows it, that Motorcycle Rider’s desire to ride sure will make me re-think what I’m saying NO to.